Grief and Loss
Grief is natural because loss is inevitable
Grief and loss are realities that can be unbearable. It forces people to reconstruct themselves because when you lose something or someone important, your life, as it is, no longer makes sense. This can be an arduous process of slowing down, deconstructing parts of your life that were connected with the loss, and then, eventually, reconstructing a new life. Although it can be excruciating, it is also a natural healing process that helps people to move forward, even when it may feel impossible.
Below are some steps on how to grieve:
- Give yourself time to grieve. Allow yourself to feel your pain and go through it. It will pass in time – your own time. Finally you will be left with the ability to move forward, a level of acceptance, memories, and the pain will be less sharp and urgent.
- Talk to others. Keeping it all in is not a good way to handle loss. The pain can seem overwhelming and it helps to talk to someone about it. If you feel like you cannot talk to family or friends, counselling groups can prove to be helpful.
- Put everything on hold for a while. Rushing in to a new relationship, making big changes in your life, running away from your problems should be something to avoid. This is called fleeing forward and it a coping strategy only meant to avoid dealing with your feelings that creates more confusion into your life then it helps solve your grief.
- Seek out professional help. If you feel overwhelmed by your loss, it may be helpful to talk to a professional about it – to help you deal with your feelings and cope with the situation.