- Having a grandiose view of oneself.
- Exaggerating achievements and talents.
- Having a sense of entitlement and insisting on having the “best” of everything.
- Wanting constant attention and admiration from others.
- Believing one is superior to others and appearing haughty or arrogant.
- Expect special treatment and favors for no particular reason.
- Belittling others or taking advantage of people to get what they want.
- Unwilling or unable to acknowledge the feelings or needs of other people.
- Feeling envious of others, and believing that others also envy them.
Causes of Narcissistic Personality Disorder
There may also be genetic components or differences in the neurobiology of those with NPD, but researchers believe that the cause of NPD is likely more complex.
Causes and Symptoms of Narcissistic Rage
Author Preston Ni writes that there are 8 common situations that can cause someone with NPD to experience a narcissistic injury. These situations can cause the individual with NPD feel vulnerable or ashamed, which is a direct blow to their self-perception:
- The individual doesn’t get their way in a situation, even if was for a valid reason.
- When someone critiques or criticizes them.
- The individual isn’t able to be the center of attention.
- The individual with NPD is caught breaking or ignoring rules.
- Someone expects the person with NPD to take responsibility for their behaviors.
- Being told that they aren’t an “exception” to a rule or that they don’t get “special treatment.”
- Someone points out their manipulation or exploitation of others, their inadequacy, or their false facade.
- When the person feels like they don’t have control in their relationships.
What if My Loved One Displays Symptoms?
People with narcissistic personality disorder typically don’t think, or don’t want to think, that there’s anything wrong with them. They likely won’t want to seek treatment from a doctor or therapist, and even if they do, it would probably be for a different issue associated with their narcissism such as depression or another mental health concern. If you think your loved one should seek professional help, you can try to encourage them to schedule an appointment, but remember that at the end of the day, it’s not your responsibility. They will need to make the decision themselves to either get treatment or continue living with NPD.
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