Just Like Any Other Therapy
Conversation is Key
A sex therapist may also help you become more mindful and aware in the bedroom. After years of marriage, sex can seem like a chore, when in reality, it should be a sensual shared experience that connects you and your partner. Through mindfulness training, you will learn to become more present in the bedroom. Instead of worrying about your next project at work or what you will cook for dinner, a sex therapist will help you clear your mind, so you can focus on your partner. When mindfulness and open communication combine, your sexual relationship will flourish, and hopefully that success will bleed into other aspects of your shared life.
More Than Just Talking
Your therapist will not recommend a wild task, like getting involved in a threesome. Instead, they might have you sit in front of each other naked. It might seem silly, since you’ve probably seen each other naked over the years, but this time your therapist might suggest you really look at each other in your most vulnerable state. This will help connect you mentally and physically. Once you get over a small hurdle like this, your therapist may offer more sensual exercises, including light touching. The goal of these homework assignments are not to make you feel forced together, but rather to make you and your partner comfortable with each other. The end goal is these exercises should naturally lead to sex.
If you feel like your poor sex life is affecting your relationship, a sex therapist may be able to help you. These professional sessions will be a deep, emotional rollercoaster, but if you stick it out, a therapist may be able to save your marriage.