Three more fruit cakes need to be bought, several gifts are waiting to be wrapped, cheery greetings were forgotten to be promptly posted, and fancy dresses should be meticulously chosen to impress. Does this sound familiar? Is the holiday rush stressing you out? Take a couple of minutes to reflect on the true gist of the season. Needless to say, it is all about cherishing the connections that matter the most. To wit, having a few yet close friends is way better than having a myriad yet less meaningful ones.
Power of Friendship
Relationship Quality over Quantity
This quality over quantity principle on relationships puts the spotlight on significant memories, strong family ties, well-nourished marriages, and other facets of authentic relationships. You may have a thousand friends on Face Book and follow hundreds on Twitter but at the end of the day, you may still feel like a certain connection is missing. You may have sent numerous holiday greetings and attended more than a few holiday events but how many of them were actually well meant?
Interpersonal relationships is among the biggest focal points of our existence. Unfortunately, the popular materialistic mindset of a number of individuals have diverted them from what is most precious. Before you rush out to buy those fruit cakes, think if they would really be enjoyed by your loved ones or if they would merely function as table garlands. As you wrap those presents, ask yourself how much benevolence you are actually willing to give. While writing those greetings, choose words that genuinely express what you feel. As you go over your wardrobe, think of how comfortable would you be in that apparel as you spend quality time with people who would love you regardless of the clothes you wear.
By the Couples Clinic
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Gleckel, E. (2015). Friendship quality and personality as predictors of psychological well-being in emerging adults. University of Richmond, Honors Theses. Paper 811.